Ok i believe i have diagnosed the two fold problem. First, in my research this moring i stumbled upon some interesting information. I had the hot end taken apart yesterday to clesn it out. i did NOT put it back together correctly. I didnt push the bowden tube down enough and it was far from seated properely on the nozzle. That was a recipe for destruction.
The other problem is the extruder. Not entirely sure what it is but i did find that when i give the lever a little hand tension it works fine. So i pulled the spring out and streched it a bit. Its almost done with a whole test print now. Looking pretty fine (one wall isnt adhered good. whats up with that? cooling problem?) I ended up placing an order for some goodies. An EZ out to take out the set screw that is stripped and holding on the extruder wheel, and a micro-swiss bowden dual gear extruder. that should really fix things on that end. I hate when something goes haywire with this thing. But i have the drive to fix it. from what the internet says, seems like most people let it sit around a few months before they deal with it.